Most of my spare time is spent working on music in some manner. All I want is to make music full time, so I devote as much energy as I have to make this a reality.
As most of my time is spent on this, my relationship can sometimes be negelcted. I am aware of this and do try to spend time with my partner, though finding a balance can sometimes be difficult.
Does anyone else have similar problems and if so, what works for you?
It’s quite easy for me. 
I do struggle to find a balance. I rarely see anyone, my parents live quite close to me and i rarely see them too. I make time to hang out with my partner or the rare times i leave the house to be social and my music suffers. If i don’t make time for people, particularly my partner, my relationships suffer. I wonder if this is just the producer/musicians curse?
Don’t half heart this, buy a cardboard box and live in it for a year with laptop and renoise under a bridge.
If only it was that simple hehe. I care too much to do that. I care about my partner whom I have been with for approx half of my life, and i care too much about all the gear I have been collecting and use, to reduce it to a laptop… I would be ok with the cardboard box though 
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I totally feel you on this, i have had this challenge in all of my relationships. What i’ve learnt from it, is that it’s very important to:
- make them understand how important music is for you and for your personal happiness
- but - make sure to not make them feel LESS important than your music. lie, if necessary
worst thing is having a partner that is jealous of your music and wish you could spend that passion on them instead.
Take a break once in a while from music and suggest to do something romantic together, or at least make them feel special and appreciated. See it as investments rather than “ineffective” hours
And og course, enjoy it. If not, you probably have the wrong partner.
One trick i found, is to say it “i have to work” rather than “i want to explore this amazing new synthesizer and tweak a lot of knobs and have fun and maybe finish a song”. I actually do make some money off music now (mastering, mixing, soundtrack/fx) so now i can easily blend in some hours of fun with the actual “work”.
I always aim for full honesty towards partners, but its veeery hard for outsiders (non-musicmakers) to understand how much time is required etc, especially if they don’t have a time-consuming hobby themselves.
Thanks Denim, that helps. Although she doesn’t make music she is a creative and understands. We are both very open and honest too.
I have had a talk today about this again and reached a conclusion, going to implement a calendar of sorts. It sounds funny to have to structure things like this, but we are going to trial it and it seems positive.
Marry the melody
My girl broke up my ‘band’. Then she left after a while.
I don’t care though, cause I still make tunes and stuff.
What sucks is I can’t mix (never had to) or figure out what to do with all this stuff by myself.
Living forever isn’t possible, dying and being remembered is all you can do. You can’t do that alone. You can’t do that alone.
My girl broke up my ‘band’. Then she left after a while.
I don’t care though, cause I still make tunes and stuff.
What sucks is I can’t mix (never had to) or figure out what to do with all this stuff by myself.
Living forever isn’t possible, dying and being remembered is all you can do. You can’t do that alone. You can’t do that alone.
That sucks, though it is good you are still doing music. I am learning mixing too, here are some places that I have found give invaluable advice:
http://therecordingrevolution.com/
http://ehomerecordingstudio.com
(Both have lot of very useful free info - do also offer paid services)
Youtube channels:
Mixbus Tv: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0zzmN5qzSBt1GxHQ6N1_mg
Tuts+Music&Audio: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCz1lYY5jH-D82MQs3llqnXA
Produce like a pro: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpyUGZeMUtOvt57UACw3H2g
Have kids.
^^ That would do it. Do sometimes mind nephews, neices etc. It is nice to be able to give them back though hehe.
I only see my girlfriend every 3 or so months because of her college so I have plenty of time to work on music. Also, when she´s here she dont mind me polishing some stuff up (I only create new tracks when alone, with her I only finish stuff or I would get too immersed in it). To top that, she is a veeeeery heavy sleeper, lol, caught her falling asleep during two very loud mixdowns of mine. I fear for her safety regarding fire alarms and stuff like that, haha
I guess I got really lucky
'The fuck is a relationship?
'The fuck is a relationship?
