I fell in love with a woman. She’s so damn beautiful, she has a bunch of humor and I loved her. She was the gf of my best friend, they separated a while ago, we started off hard’n’heavy and now my friend starts to flirt with her again and she doesn’t know what to do…
I don’t know where I should dump my feelings, usually I would tell all this my best friend but as he is the reason for my love sickness I am really angry with him. Damn, I should stop, this thread will be visible forever and in a while I would be ashamed of it but now I am totally fxcked up.
Of course I cannot force her to stay with me (the relationship is none, we are kissing each other since a week) and I don’t want to lose my friend, too but I am really really upset right now.
Here’s no question, I am just feeling like living in a bubble with the whole world outside not understanding me. Damn…
Don’t be ashamed, there are far worse things to be shameful about.
Fucked up shit is inevitable. Its your ability to cope with it that counts. The aftermath of it all. Be aware of your coping mechanics and keep it sharp.
Edit: Why the fuck do I need to edit shit all the time
Edit: fuck shit fuck fuck, was that shit a glitch
Edit: You can’t edit your memories, unless your schizophrenic, suffering from dementia, or (robot voice) insert vegetable in orifice
Edit: I am the Great Santini, I have the power to edit stupid shit I type
It seems that the long delay before the release of renoise’ next version is resulting in renoisers’ relationship problems. Had some other threads recently…
Being serious, I don’t think that relationship with a girl (which is eventually cut) is worth loosing a good friend. Many girls might come into your life and get away, but real friends do remain forever.
All the replies go to the same direction, so I thought posting something opposite.
I like being honest about stuff like that. Whatever happens, you know that you were atleast honest. And if you really love someone then you should hold on to her, cause I know very well, if you let the right one go, you may never come to true satisfaction again.
Something I realised in my younger life has been a great guide to increased happiness:
Put dedicated effort into making yourself a better person (all round and over a sustained long period of time) and eventually this will earn you better company. If you improve as a person those who are negative or unimportant in your life will fade out, fall away.
If in doubt: don’t. The deep bliss of a of a real mature partnership with a lover reveals itself honestly and obviously. If that isn’t clear then sticking with it can only be a world of hell.
Don’t drop her because of “what-if”. Don’t either think that she is the best in the world and your friend not. Just try to be yourself at your best. Be positive. Avoid negative thinking, they might lead you to weird situations and feelings. The best is to be honest and true to yourself. About your story, some things can happen (not all of them good):
She will realize that it is better to stay with you than with him and you will be together forever and live happily ever after.
She will keep going back and forth between your friend and you and eventually you will have to leave her because it will hurt you.
Maybe you are just the rebound guy. You know your feelings but maybe hers are not the same. Beware! She will go away as soon as she finds Mr. Right, who can be your friend.
What I mean is that if you are true to yourself you will never regret anything and you will be in peace with yourself in the future, regardless how the relationships continues or ends. Remember that if it ends maybe you keep seeing her or your friend or maybe not, but you will keep living with yourself all your life. Stuck to your principles, don’t betray yourself, there is no harder judge than oneself. Keep it in mind for the future.
I’m not giving you any solution. You will have to find it by your own.