No, no way to control this.
What you can do is name the tracks that you want to send to the engineer. A simple thing I do is use CAPS to name group tracks that should be used for mixing. You could also prefix / suffix them with STEM.
So in your case I might have:
*** DRUMS
** cymbals
- ride
Then when I export everything, I know to only send over the DRUMS.wav file.
Basically, just use some naming convention to identify the files to be used for mixing / mastering.
It might seem annoying or like extra work, but it allows you to save multiple layers of sounds to mess with later if you want…