So my share of this whole thing.
as you may noticed I had to split up with my gf after five years. did hurt like hell, especially since she got really all raged up and started to do nasty things and tell bad stories to people about me.
one of these people is a guy I had some relation with a while ago but kinda left alone about 3 months ago because he is a real egocentric, he is not really an ass, but everything not about him just doesnt bother him. We made a verbal contract for example about something (50/50) and when the whole thing brought in much more money than we anticpated I had to argue for half an hour with him just to get 50 bucks. thats just the peak of stories about him being unsensible and not being able to feel into other people at all.
the point is now that they both got together two weeks ago and I really snapped, because thats something that I never could have imagined, I know her, I know him, I have no idea how on earth they could go together and furthermore my ex knows him to be an absolute prick and was the one to tell me to just stay away from him in the firstplace.
this hurt again very much, but I calmed down quite fast, because I know that either
a ) this is obvious bullshit and they will pay with tears and feelings very soon (maybe only her, but I dont care) or
b ) if they really connect and live a happy life then I was completely wrong about my gf and dont want her back ever anyway.
either way I think my ex just wanted to state a point and she managed that very well, I feel much better since.
BUT ! here comes the twist. he contacted me a few weeks ago (when I didnt know that they were together, only that the was “friends” with her) and wanted to sort things out, I wrote him back a couple of times, told him that even being friends with my ex-gf really sucks and that I am very disappointed, told him all the stuff that made me walk away from him etc., I got a bunch of mails with loads of crap, lies, denials and other stuff back. And so I just decided that he is definately dead for me.
Now I know they are together and the point is that a few months ago some friend of his asked him for the phonenumber of one of his ex-gf because he liked her and that guy totally snapped and raged around that its entirely bullshit to hit on ex-gfs in the circle of friends, blabla.
wrote him that too, with a huge smiley in the mail, and now (here comes the punchline) that guy is obviously feeling so guilty that he offered me a job for three times in the past week altough I said every time “leave it, I rather starve to death than work for you, who do you think I am ?”, started to contact my friends and asking them if they can talk to me (close friends ! they phoned me instantly and we laughed our ass off), checks my blog three times a day and so on.
So all I do now everytime he does that stuff is to send an sms to my ex telling her that she should really look after him, since he making a complete fool of himself at the moment. Guess that will start quite some rattle everytime, because as crazy7hurt as my gf is, we agreed to just leave each other alone and we both respect and do that.
I have fun at the moment really. makes me happy to see this guy feeling anything close to guilt and actually having to think about himself for the first time in his life, I guess.
edit: and on 24th this month there will be a party by one of our mutual friends. I said to him “sorry, I wont be there if they both show up, just cant manage this atm”, my friends asks this guy, he goes “yeah sure, we look forward to it”, I sms my ex telling her that is really not in our “leave each other alone”-policy for her to come to this party (especially since she does not know anyone there) and I get the answer back that she never intended to come, because she doesnt want to see me anyway.
I dont care if he shows up, since I lost literally all respect for him it will be easy to ignore him, and maybe he just brings yet another of his already classic comedic performances.