Yesterday my son and girlfriend fell asleep at 9pm.
I was quick to go and make some music. For 3 hours. Man that felt nice. When she woke up and asked if I was coming to bed I said “yeah sure just hold on a minute”.
She kept asking me, again and again since it took me about another hour to finish working on my tune.
I feel bad about getting irritated, but making music is meditation.
Any girl reading this thread? 
I guess girls moaning to your music could be a positive thing…
I’m enjoying being single so much that thinking about a steady relationship makes me feel bad. Enjoy your days as an independent person responsible for your own actions only as long as possible, 'cos after you go on living a worker’s life and family guy, there’s (most likely) no turning back. But of course, one ought to do as he/she wants. That’s what life should be all about in the first place, being happy about the thing you’re doing.
I always tried to find time for making music, but I never could find enough of it. So, now I’m trying to find time for other stuff instead, music being the #1, at least for now. People change, thoughts change… and that’s basically the reason why I can’t hold on to steady relationships. I just don’t have the time or nerves. I want to hold on to the option of me going around the world in 100 days whenever I feel like it with no hesitating at all, for as long as possible - and for as long as I want.
Quite frankly, I really hope that I won’t find the woman of my dreams in the nearest future… because I’m pretty sure that would mean I’d seriously lessen the amount of music I’m making atm, which is a thing I seriously don’t want. I love music and I want to produce, produce and produce… right now! I know that I will most likely never going to be as productive in music as I am now, so taking a lady along the run would be a waste of potential energy. And no, there’s no woman in the world that would increase my productivity from this point - it would only make things for the worse, for I’m a terrible romantic and enjoy spending time with the lady without thinking about music.
So, no serious relationships for me k. There will be enough time for women in the future.
Well - after more than 5 years being single it’s hard to believe I should be happy with what I am doing 
the truth is:
If you are single then you feel like something is wrong with you and you lack something Thats how mother nature meant it to be, you have to procreate in order for your species to “survive”. Thats the appeal for opposite sex etc.
If you are in relationship then a lot of times you feel “restricted”, you cant do whatever you want and whenever you want and if you start to feel harassed then you decide that you will be better off alone.
If you break up then after some short time you begin to feel that natures urge again 
So, the only solution that i see is to find yourself girlfriend/boyriend who understands:
…the concept of healthy relationship where you have to leave some space for eachother and not harass.
…that you actually CAN have serious and committed relationship without rubbing your noses together 24/7.
…that if you leave eachother space it does NOT mean that you have shallow relationship.
…that yearning/craving/missing is actually a good feeling in moderate amounts and it has to exist in healthy relationships, so you can feel the true joy of spending quality time with your other half.
…that being together too much kills the relationship, cause you will get that routine/bored feeling and while the time you spend together has quantity it lacks quality.
My girl seems to be into the whole being submissive thing, but I’m always trying to tell her to give a little back… I’m certainly not into M/s relationships in any sense…it’s good to be able to debate things openly where the situation calls for it
But in saying that I think she just likes to try and please me, I shouldn’t complain She’s content letting me do my own thing without feeling the need to harass me… and I’m not a possessive boyfriend so it works fine both ways like that…friends keep telling me “hang on to this one”.
I learned a few years back that I have to stand up for myself. When I meet someone new, I tell them “I make music. A lot. All my tools are on my computer. If you want to spend time together, approach me like you’d approach an adult and we’ll talk like adults if you feel there is a problem. However, if I EVER hear the words ‘All you ever do is sit on that computer’, we’re through then and there, no questions or discussion”.
I’m respectful, not controlling, and mature… but I fucking stand up for myself when it comes to my 1 true love.
How long before you tell them?
Hope that’s not your pickup line 
No but seriously, I’ve noticed that after I got a GF and a son, the amount of music that I make has gone down maybe 80%. Can’t make music before my son has gone to bed, usually at 8pm, often later than that (he’s crazy about the PC and the midi-keyboard, and it’s impossible to make music while he’s awake. Ever tried tracking with a 2 year old on your lap going berserk on the midi keyboard? guess he’s gotten the good part of my genes 
) and 8pm-midnight, well that’s the time my GF wants “alone” time with me.
Anywho, it’s when you get a family you start to appreciate the moments you have all by yourself.
I must admit when I started this I was annoyed. I’d had a few beers and settled down to (what I thought) an even doing what I enjoy.
The replies have made me think a bit, I was bit harsh on the other half. So I’m spending a bit more time with her. To be honest she’s been very supportive over the years, she’s bought me keyboard and stuff and agreed I needed a new Pc so I could use RN 1.9.
I’d rather the whole family spent our time together gathered round our new Pc chucking ideas together and ‘tracking ‘as a family should (like the old days when families gathered round the piano) the kids love writing music although they seem to prefer FL studio at the moment for some reason.
I recognise that situation quite well, been there too. The trick here is to communicate and perhaps make some arrangements. For example, I need time for myself, and also time with my buddies (i.e. gaming sessions on the XBOX360 or Wii etc), and she hates the rather violent games me and my 360-buddy plays. But she’s told me that I get two nights a week where she butts off to a friend to leave us alone in the living room for as long as we can muster. In return I do stuff with her I don’t necessarily would give priority if I was single. Also, since i can easily have a day off when she’s working I get time for myself during the days she’s at work. But that’s my life and my situation.
Back to you; In the situation you described above, you could simply just say that you wanted to finish that track tonight, please just go back to sleep and don’t wait for me tonight. Or, in advance make an agreement that you get at least three nights a week after Tommy’s bed time of alone / tracking time. Communication is the key. Trust me on this.
I (or in this case we) believe it’s important for a relationship that you both still have your own things. Your own friends, places to go, passions… It’s cool if you can share those things as well, but since we both have our own needs (in my case music, in her case sports), we let eachother free in doing those.
I can lock myself in for hours to make music or write, or be at friends’, playing videogames all night long, drinking beer, smoking ganja… As much as she can go out and have a drink (or many) with her friends. It all comes down to trust, I think. Trust in the other’s feeligns and sense of responsibility.
Too true. Agree very much with the last two comments. I think if people are having problems with their other halves enjoying themselves out of jealousy/insecurity etc then they probably need to reassess the way they interact with each other from the ground up… decide whether or not things are really headed where both parties want them to. On the other hand, if theres an actual practical problem that needs to be addressed then go ahead and address it without delay!